If You Feel Unhappy…
Many emotional traumas from childhood are caused when our caregivers shame us, snap at us, and ignore us when we are having an emotional experience. This is a kind of emotional abandonment. When as children our emotional life is not accurately received, we can feel abandoned, shamed, unworthy, confused, empty, and angry.
These experiences of emotional neglect teach us to devalue our emotions, and reject the authentic aspects of our personality linked to that emotion. As a result, we do not know what to do with our emotions when they arise, and resort to the strategy we came up with as children.
Ultimately we emotionally abandon ourselves and get cut off from the heart. Counselling and therapy for depression and anxiety treatment should include an understanding of emotional wounds, how to heal emotional wounds, and how to recover the authentic self.
You have valid reasons for feeling negative emotions. The experiences of the past can colour our present life, and the unresolved pain can filter up and through. Healing is a process of restoring your inner balance and order. You have a right to inner peace and to your creative potential. Emotional healing and emotional mastery are one of the keys to unlocking your full potential.
As children, our emotional lives are so open. We are ready to create and state things as they are! This authentic life becomes suppressed through a life of “mini” traumas (called developmental trauma).
Trauma treatment for developmental trauma is different from PTSD treatment. Trauma therapy for developmental trauma often centres around getting you back in touch with your emotions in s healthy way, and supporting you to reconnect with your authentic self.
Poverty of Soul
Little time and opportunity are given to nurture the soul. Our social lives are designed according to obedience rather than creativity. The result is self-suppression. To be loved, to feel worthy, to feel safe – we had to adapt. In this process, we gave up little parts of who we are naturally in order to maintain the basic needs of every human being.
Why should you be a doctor when your optimal growth and maximum contribution come from your natural talent as a horticulturalist? Why should you work from 9-5 when your natural physical rhythm makes you a night owl or an early bird? Your preferences are actually indications of the optimal conditions for your personal growth. Progress makes us happy.
Self-suppression is normalised and we scratch our heads about the increasing rates of depression and anxiety. We were not given the chance to lock into our abilities, and therefore believe that we have nothing to give.
We agree to the routine because we have forgotten that we have an important task in this life – self-actualisation! We can reclaim the self-exploration that we missed out on, access our innate gifts, and genuine self-worth by working with emotions.
It is likely that you do not even know what your innate talents are because you were pulled into a trained routine before you could figure that out. Emotions guide you there. Psychotherapy in Sydney with Rachel can help you to access your authentic emotions. You can learn how to decode your inner life so that it works for you, instead of against you – leading to feelings of depression, anxiety, and existential pain.
Natural Rhythms & Authentic Living
Most social structures do not accommodate individual internal rhythms. There is a natural order to your individual life. This order is as unique as you are. We all need food, shelter, and love. However, different people require different foods, prefer different kinds of shelter, and feel loved when it is shown in different ways.
We have many reasons to bull doze our individual needs, including; survival needs, temporary circumstances, belief that there is no other way, soothing emotional wounds, and managing internal conflict. Different people have different thresholds for how far they can push.
Do not expect yourself to get it perfectly right, and do not underestimate the power of subconscious beliefs that seize your emotions, and push you to deny your own needs. Living by a daily schedule that has been pre-arranged may not be in the best interest of your body or soul, and this includes your parents and your boss!
Psychotherapy in Sydney’s Northern Beaches, Brookvale with Rachel can help you to honour your emotional life. This can often be a big challenge, because many of us had our personal boundaries consistently devalued when we were children, and the urge to bulldoze our needs can be very strong when its attached to survival.
It can be challenging to be emotionally, spiritually, and physically well when you disagree with your personal boundaries. We repeat patterns until they are broken, and psychotherapy is a great tool for making the negative unconscious patterns into conscious ones – so that they can be cleared for good.
Rachel Anenberg, BA (Psyc), BSW, MSW (Master of Social Work) is a psychotherapist and spiritual coach providing integrative therapy. Her expertise as a psychotherapist come from a combined background and education in psychology, social work, and soul sciences.
Psychotherapy with Rachel can help you to heal depression, treat anxiety, recover from child abuse, adult abuse & narcissistic abuse. Genuine happiness is often out of reach because of unhealed past experiences. Psychotherapy can help you to get in control and feel naturally happy.
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The principles and techniques taught in this article are based on the personal and professional experience of the authour as a intuitive healer and psychotherapist, trained in Psychology (BA) and Social Work (MSW). Rachel Anenberg does not claim to be a doctor or provider of medical advice. The author is not a psychologist or psychiatrist and is not able to diagnose medical or psychiatric ailments.
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