How to Love Yourself (Is self-love the answer?)

What I have found over and over again while helping people to recover from childhood abuse, symptoms of depression, feelings of emptiness, guilt, shame, and unresolved anxiety... is that we expect ourselves to know. We expect ourselves to know how to be happy, we expect ourselves to know how to love ourselves, and we expect … Continue reading How to Love Yourself (Is self-love the answer?)

HEART CENTRED LIVING

Heart Centred Living Many of us believe unconsciously that love is limited and conditional. We associate love with “approval”, believe that we come up short unless deemed otherwise, and become invested in proving self-worth through productivity. We learn to dislike ourselves, and compete with each other. This competition is based on the confusion of wealth, … Continue reading HEART CENTRED LIVING

BUILDING POSITIVE EMOTIONAL RESOURCES

Emotional Presence Technique You may have a specific experience that is causing some emotions to stir up, or you may simply want to do this technique as a daily practice. The goal is to practice presence with your emotion by feeling the sensations of it, instead of telling a story about it. This will show … Continue reading BUILDING POSITIVE EMOTIONAL RESOURCES

How to Meditate Mindfully

Mindfulness Meditation Practice Mindfulness meditation is like medicine for the mind, brain and heart. The brain structures of long term mindfulness meditators are different from the average brain. The areas associated with compassion and emotional stability are bigger. Mindfulness is the practice of unconditional presence - sort of similar to pure love - just approval, … Continue reading How to Meditate Mindfully

Emotional Grounding Techniques

The Three Keys of Emotional Mastery Imagine a crying 1 month old. The baby is fed, clean, rested and will not stop crying. You can treat an emotion as if it is this baby. This baby cannot stop crying on its own because its brain is still growing and learning how to calm down. The … Continue reading Emotional Grounding Techniques

THE BODY-MIND-BRAIN CONNECTION OF EMOTION

THE BODY-MIND-BRAIN CONNECTION OF EMOTION Your emotional life is influenced by your body, brain, and mind. This means that you can transform your brain, body, and mind so that they are primed for a balanced emotional life. Working with any one aspect will influence the others. It's all connected. Not only can you actively work … Continue reading THE BODY-MIND-BRAIN CONNECTION OF EMOTION

Why We Feel…

Introduction to Emotion Emotion is a powerful and universal human experience. Emotions sabotage us and they serve us. They block our creativity and they energise it. They can damage our bodies and heal them. They create the atmosphere of war, and support communal well being. We are uplifted by our emotions, and pulled down by … Continue reading Why We Feel…

THE CASE FOR YOUR EMOTIONS

Why Emotions Matter Emotions are an inescapable part of our human experience. Yet we are provided with few tools to navigate or understand our emotional worlds. “Mental health” is a commonly spoken phrase, but emotional health, and spiritual health are seldom discussed. Many of us believe that we are at the mercy of our emotions, … Continue reading THE CASE FOR YOUR EMOTIONS

Five Myths About Psychotherapy – How to Avoid a Bad Therapist

Making the decision to speak to a psychologist or a psychotherapist is a very personal choice. Your therapist should be the right fit for your goals and needs. Many people can walk away from a bad session and blame themselves. Others can spend ages in therapy without results, and think they are at fault.  If … Continue reading Five Myths About Psychotherapy – How to Avoid a Bad Therapist

PORTRAIT OF AN INNER CHILD

They were on their way to the park, and waiting to cross the road. Beep. Beep. Beep - Tock! Green light. Mum held onto Marelise's hand very tightly. Too tightly. She walked briskly, pulling at Marelise's arm as they made their way to the other side of the road. The day before, Marelise and her … Continue reading PORTRAIT OF AN INNER CHILD